The List

We all have one. It's a list of what the perfect guy or girl should be like that we want to meet and marry some day. It might consist of something like: 1) Can make me laugh 2.) Has similar beliefs as me 3.) Is kind 4.) Likes to play games. I'm sure your list will be different then, say, my list, but you get the general idea. At what point, though, do we budge on the list, and accept the person for who they are, even if they don't meet all our "requirements"? Well, first of all, you and I are never going to find that perfect person, cause they don't exist.

There is nothing wrong with having high standards. I happen to have very high standards. But over time, I have realized that I just can't fit someone in my "perfect" box and expect them to be themselves. They would be trying too hard to please me, and things just wouldn't flow like they are supposed to in a relationship. So although I hold out hope for finding the perfect guy for me some day, I know he is going to be just a man. So what should I do with my list in the event that I find the guy I have always been looking for? Do I throw it away? Well, in some cases that might be the best option. But more likely, it would be best to decide what you must have in this person and what is negotiable.

For example, you may have a requirement that says he, or she, must be faithful to me at all cost, and they can't cheat ever. Thats a good thing to need. You may want to keep that on the list and not budge on it. But if another item on your list is, they must be a certain height or weight, you may want to reconsider this. Because, eventually, we all lose our looks. And what your left with is the inside of the person. And that is more priceless than gold.

I don't have much else to say on this, other than lets accept each other for who we really are, and choose our friends wisely. For those who you associate with is what you become. Its just the power of influence others have on us. Also, if you want to meet the right person, you gotta be the right person. That doesn't mean you have to become proficient in all home-making tasks. It just means you need to work on your attitude towards things and people. It may be the physical that initially attracts us to someone, but it is the spirit of the person that is going to keep us with them. Just more thoughts from the mind of Crystal.

by: Crystal Nylander