Fantasy... what comes to mind when you hear this word? Ah, yes I know what is the first thought that comes to your mind... it might be fun to talk about "that" some day. Oh alright, you talked me into it. Why not talk about "it"? It is on everyone's minds anyway. And I have been fairly candid about my views on other things, so why not this? If you are still in the dark at this point about what I am talking about, I guess I will just spell it out for you.... the topic of this post is sex. Before I stop justifying why this is a valid thing to discuss, let me just say that sex is a God given gift. And let me take it a step further and say this: I believe that sex is very spiritual, as well as being physical and emotional. Sex is spiritual... what?? Absolutely. Why do I say this? Well the bible tells us that when a man a woman come together in that way, they become one flesh. There has to be something supernatural happening for 2 to equal 1. That is breaking the laws of physics and mathematics. But funny enough, it may not be breaking the laws of chemistry, since 2 molecules can combine all the time in chemistry. I think that's the reason God set up the parameters He did, with Him saying that sex should only happen in a loving, committed relationship. It's not to take away our fun. It was designed to be more "fun" in the setting God put into place.
But what's the reality of the situation? For reasons I don't understand, it seems to be what I hear, that after you get married, sex becomes obsolete, and couples don't have sex that often. So most people say, hey, get your kicks while you can and have sex with as many people as possible, cause after you get married, you won't have sex anymore. Why is this happening? Listen up women, cause I am about to get really tough on you. STOP saying you have headaches! STOP saying you are too busy! STOP making excuses. If you are married, your husband needs you in this area. You didn't get married to just have your own needs met, did you? STOP being so selfish! Men need sex, and they are not trying to make you feel like an object. Give them a little bit of credit, that they might actually LOVE you! Oh, and one more thing... STOP LYING to yourself. Women, you need sex too.
I don't know where this stupid double standard came from. There is one standard for men, it appears, and a completely different standard set up by society, and the church, for women. Men are told either subliminally, or blatantly, that its hip and masculine to go out and have as many "conquests" as possible. They are told that the more women they sleep with, the more masculine they are. But women are told to defend their 'honor", and that sex is "bad" and its dirty. I am making generalizations. There are always exceptions to the rule. I do not believe that sex should be liberal, and that in order to free ourselves, we should just sleep with whoever is in our path. But I do not believe either that this desire to have sex should be so repressed that you won't even talk about it anymore.
I don't know what else to say about this. I am not an expert, so many of you may not want to even listen to me. I'm sorry for being so harsh about this. I just find it disturbing that this whole issue has been so flipped on its head. Get over it... sex is not a bad thing. And its not dirty either. At least not in and of itself. Like everything, sex is what you make of it, and do with it. It's all about your intentions. Just some more thoughts from the mind of Crystal.
by: Crystal Nylander
No comments:
Post a Comment