Today's reflection has brought me to the topic of love. There are many kinds of love out there. There is love of family, love you might have for your friends, and of course the love you experience for a pet. There is the ultimate love that is unconditional love. But the kind of love I would like to focus on today is romantic love.
Specifically, I would like to talk about the idea of loving the one you are with. First of all, is this a good idea, and is it even possible? I am going to suggest to you that, even though there is a song with these very lyrics in them, that loving the one you're with is never a good idea, unless you are with the one you love. I would go further, and say it's not possible to just randomly love any person you just so happen to be with, just because they are there. Here is why.
I may be with guy A that I am not interested in at all, however we randomly end up spending a lot of time together. In the mean time, guy B, who I spend only a little bit of time with, and I am not with right now, I do like, and even love. Now, I could put on an outward show of love to guy A, but the whole time I would be loving guy B in my mind. You see, it doesn't matter how much time I spend with either guy. I still love guy B, even though I spent less time with him than guy A.
It is unfair for me to put on a show of love towards one guy when I really love someone else. That is why loving the one you are with doesn't work. You can maybe fool everyone else into thinking that you love someone just because you are with them. But you can't lie to yourself forever. And eventually you will leave them because they drive you crazy.
I have never been one to settle for anyone I didn't truly love. This has been perhaps a downfall of mine and has kept me out of having lots of relationships. Some might say my standards are too high. Perhaps this is all true. But at least I will be able to say when I do find that right guy, that I am not just loving the one I am with. I will be able to look at him and say that I am with him because he is the one I love. I hope he can say the same about me. Just more thoughts from the mind of Crystal.
by: Crystal Nylander
