What should we do with fear? I am probably not a good person to listen to about this, because I rarely deal with my fear in a constructive manner. I am more of a flight, rather than fight type when it comes to dealing with fear. Or in the case of things I am dealing with right now, I am avoiding them altogether. And the situations are not going away, they are probably only going to get worse. Sigh. You would think I would learn from my past. And after all, haven't I said that pain is not the enemy? But fear is another thing all together. When we pay attention to fear, it can have an almost paralyzing effect. Or, in the case of some people, we can become the worst parts of ourselves, till we are belligerent because we think we have to fight to get what we want, or to get away from the thing that is causing us the fear.
In my world, there are many apparent things to fear. Fear of the lack of money, which could lead to the lack of food. Fear of an unknown future. Fear of the government collapsing. Fear of people yelling at me. I could think of many things to fear. Some things that I may fear may seem rather small to you and you may not fear them at all. Everyone is different, because we all have different upbringings and beliefs about life. No 2 of us are alike. Yes, I know I am stating the obvious. The point is, we need to have sympathy for other people's fears, no matter how strange or unreasonable they may seem. We don't know what brought them to point of fearing that thing or person, whatever the case may be.
Having said that, fear, as opposed to pain, is not your friend. It will not teach you anything. Well, it may teach you how to be brave and overcome your fear. However, it is good to have a healthy dose of fear of certain things, because what you don't know can kill you. But too much fear will not lead to anything good. I suppose if I was listening to myself right now, I would just stand up to that person who is intimidating me right now. Or I would just go out be able to get any job I wanted, because I would exude charisma and confidence. Or I would no longer let the past haunt me, and I would wake up every day anew. The point is, I am not the spokesperson for overcoming fear. But it seems to be on my mind a lot right now, so I thought I would talk about it. Just looking at my thoughts makes me feel a little more clear headed and a little better about everything, even though it doesn't change anything. Anyway, these are just more thoughts from the mind of Crystal.
by: Crystal Nylander
